Well, Aussie, wish I could help you out with this dilemma. But as far as a fairy tale is concerned, well for some people it does come true. I haven't found it yet and I have quit looking. The last time I fell head of heels and had stars in my eyes, I think it turned out to be just a dream. The guy disappeared as quickly as he appeared. However, I do know how it feels now to have someone totally turn your heart inside out and it honestly felt good. Even though it did not last long enough. Hang in there...I think you will get to experience that feeling too. Never give up and quit looking. Just do not run when it comes to you. You never know who or when it will be.
Well, Aussie, wish I could help you out with this dilemma. But as far as a fairy tale is concerned, well for some people it does come true. I haven't found it yet and I have quit looking. The last time I fell head of heels and had stars in my eyes, I think it turned out to be just a dream. The guy disappeared as quickly as he appeared. However, I do know how it feels now to have someone totally turn your heart inside out and it honestly felt good. Even though it did not last long enough. Hang in there...I think you will get to experience that feeling too. Never give up and quit looking. Just do not run when it comes to you. You never know who or when it will be.
I don't know if I believe in all that "someone out there" stuff. I have known many people that spend their whole lives in tons of relationships always thinking "Oh my God I found the one' come to find out the person they are with is so completely wrong for them or they are bad to them and for them. I guess in order to believe in all that stuff you also have to believe in fate. I am not much on fate these days because fate has kicked me in the butt way too many times. After a while you feel real stupid for believing the whole fate thing. I guess it also boils down to your faith. I for one believe in God but I don't think I believe that he has someone in this world for you. Especially since times have changed so much I believe he leaves us to our own happiness and our own mistakes and just tries to carry us through these times when it doesn't work out. Call me cynical or sarcastic but I don't believe in it all. Could be my life experiences...they say you you grow from them but I think I have just gotten plain out bitter and cold.
I don't know if I believe in all that "someone out there" stuff. I have known many people that spend their whole lives in tons of relationships always thinking "Oh my God I found the one' come to find out the person they are with is so completely wrong for them or they are bad to them and for them. I guess in order to believe in all that stuff you also have to believe in fate. I am not much on fate these days because fate has kicked me in the butt way too many times. After a while you feel real stupid for believing the whole fate thing. I guess it also boils down to your faith. I for one believe in God but I don't think I believe that he has someone in this world for you. Especially since times have changed so much I believe he leaves us to our own happiness and our own mistakes and just tries to carry us through these times when it doesn't work out. Call me cynical or sarcastic but I don't believe in it all. Could be my life experiences...they say you you grow from them but I think I have just gotten plain out bitter and cold.
See, I agree with that totally!! If we were only meant to have one person in our lives what if they pass on?? Do we have to settle for what we can get after that??
I guess the arguements are never ending
See, I agree with that totally!! If we were only meant to have one person in our lives what if they pass on?? Do we have to settle for what we can get after that??
I would have to say that there is not somebody for everybody. If you think about it, too many things happen on a daily basis that too many put other people in your path for there to be only one. Also take into consideration people who pass away old and lonely, or nuns!! LOL What happen to there somebody???
I would have to say that there is not somebody for everybody. If you think about it, too many things happen on a daily basis that too many put other people in your path for there to be only one. Also take into consideration people who pass away old and lonely, or nuns!! LOL What happen to there somebody???
I am reluctant to jump into any conversations about marriage since I have openly admitted to avoiding relationships for the last 7 years but I guess I am with the Girly on this one in as much as I don't believe people try real hard to hold things together. Amongst my many talents I am also a trained Domestic Violence and Family Intervention Counsellor (scarey aint it)and have seen so many relationships fall apart because of a lack of communication. Pure and simple. Now if one party can think the marriage is great and the other think it stinks either someone isn't talking or the other isn't listening. Either way, these are issues you sort out BEFORE marriage and certainly before children. Maybe people are too quick to jump in or just want to live the fairy tale 'Happily Ever After'. There is no such thing without some effort involved people!!!
Dammit Girly, I said no essays!!
I am reluctant to jump into any conversations about marriage since I have openly admitted to avoiding relationships for the last 7 years but I guess I am with the Girly on this one in as much as I don't believe people try real hard to hold things together. Amongst my many talents I am also a trained Domestic Violence and Family Intervention Counsellor (scarey aint it)and have seen so many relationships fall apart because of a lack of communication. Pure and simple. Now if one party can think the marriage is great and the other think it stinks either someone isn't talking or the other isn't listening. Either way, these are issues you sort out BEFORE marriage and certainly before children. Maybe people are too quick to jump in or just want to live the fairy tale 'Happily Ever After'. There is no such thing without some effort involved people!!!
I had to try to figure out if I should take personal offense to your reply there girly. Seeing as how I have came out and freely admitted that I'm a married woman who has a nice husband yet still finds herself very unhappy. I have to say I was nervous about being that honest, but then again if I figured what the hey... might as well be as honest as I can.
anyhow point being I'm thinking that for most married people who cheat or think about cheating, etc... this is simply a symptom of a much bigger problem. I'm not saying that there aren't some people out there that seem to me just to be completely incapable of having a monogamous relationship, but in general for most I really do think it is more of a symptom of a problem in their marriage/ serious relationship or a deep down personal problem... who knows.
Personally for me even thinking of not spending the rest of my life with the father of my children... of not being completely in love with him 100% of the time has torn me apart inside and out. It sucks. It hurts. and it is heck of lonely because it isn't something I willingly would share with him because all it would do is cause him pain. I'm just hoping to push through and get through it some way and hopefully come out the end with a better view of where I stand in my relationship with him.
I've never ignorantly thought love and marriage would be easy%
I had to try to figure out if I should take personal offense to your reply there girly. Seeing as how I have came out and freely admitted that I'm a married woman who has a nice husband yet still finds herself very unhappy. I have to say I was nervous about being that honest, but then again if I figured what the hey... might as well be as honest as I can.
anyhow point being I'm thinking that for most married people who cheat or think about cheating, etc... this is simply a symptom of a much bigger problem. I'm not saying that there aren't some people out there that seem to me just to be completely incapable of having a monogamous relationship, but in general for most I really do think it is more of a symptom of a problem in their marriage/ serious relationship or a deep down personal problem... who knows.
Personally for me even thinking of not spending the rest of my life with the father of my children... of not being completely in love with him 100% of the time has torn me apart inside and out. It sucks. It hurts. and it is heck of lonely because it isn't something I willingly would share with him because all it would do is cause him pain. I'm just hoping to push through and get through it some way and hopefully come out the end with a better view of where I stand in my relationship with him.
I've never ignorantly thought love and marriage would be easy%
I believe that no one co mes into your life by accident. Some people are meant to be in your life forever and others just come at the right time to fill a purpose and then move on. I hope this doesn't come across as being a shallow outlook. This doesn't mean that we are destined to move from relationship to relationship. It just means that sometimes we have to face the fact that we are not meant to be with certain people forever so when we find ourselves in a relationship that doesn't last we need to realize that and take the good from it, build upon it and look forward to the future.
I believe that no one co mes into your life by accident. Some people are meant to be in your life forever and others just come at the right time to fill a purpose and then move on. I hope this doesn't come across as being a shallow outlook. This doesn't mean that we are destined to move from relationship to relationship. It just means that sometimes we have to face the fact that we are not meant to be with certain people forever so when we find ourselves in a relationship that doesn't last we need to realize that and take the good from it, build upon it and look forward to the future.
I personally do believe there is someone out there for everyone. But maybe it is a fairytale, maybe not. I'm not sure but i can only hope that there is!
I personally do believe there is someone out there for everyone. But maybe it is a fairytale, maybe not. I'm not sure but i can only hope that there is!
Hi there.. throwing in my comment also :-). I guess its a matter of time, to find the right person for you. When you are young, a lot of small things can start a fight, jealousy and lots more.. the older you get, the more you appriciate a good conversation, a certain kind of humor and friends.. but we all want to share our life with someone who is a good match (in my case, he turns his socks around, before putting them into the laundry .. lol) yes, I believe there a few out there, who can handle me :-) Take care and good luck searching everyone!
Hi there.. throwing in my comment also :-). I guess its a matter of time, to find the right person for you. When you are young, a lot of small things can start a fight, jealousy and lots more.. the older you get, the more you appriciate a good conversation, a certain kind of humor and friends.. but we all want to share our life with someone who is a good match (in my case, he turns his socks around, before putting them into the laundry .. lol) yes, I believe there a few out there, who can handle me :-) Take care and good luck searching everyone!
^There is someone out there for everyone !!! You just have to find them, or in my case, she found me. She was in England and we met on the net, while I was serving overseas. When we finally met, sparks flew and I can't imagine my life without her.
^There is someone out there for everyone !!! You just have to find them, or in my case, she found me. She was in England and we met on the net, while I was serving overseas. When we finally met, sparks flew and I can't imagine my life without her.
I would like to think there is, but funny thing is I am not sure. I haven't had a lot of luck with the guys I have met. I am hoping he's on his way to me *lol*
I would like to think there is, but funny thing is I am not sure. I haven't had a lot of luck with the guys I have met. I am hoping he's on his way to me *lol*
Hey, don't get the idea I am bitter or anything like that. I have just learnt not to make finding 'Mr Right' a priority. I keep meeting these wonderful guys on here but they are all American!! I'm thinking about starting a war and getting them all deployed over here.....lol.
But seriously I am not looking for someone who is perfect, just perfect for me.
Hey, don't get the idea I am bitter or anything like that. I have just learnt not to make finding 'Mr Right' a priority. I keep meeting these wonderful guys on here but they are all American!! I'm thinking about starting a war and getting them all deployed over here.....lol.
But seriously I am not looking for someone who is perfect, just perfect for me.
oh yes. I believe there's someone out there for everyone... may be even several! Finding him or her depends on how much you want someone in your life, and how much you're willing to compromise on your idea of an 'ideal' mate. People aren't perfect. If you're looking for perfect, you won't find it in human beings. I know I'm certainly not perfect!!!
oh yes. I believe there's someone out there for everyone... may be even several! Finding him or her depends on how much you want someone in your life, and how much you're willing to compromise on your idea of an 'ideal' mate. People aren't perfect. If you're looking for perfect, you won't find it in human beings. I know I'm certainly not perfect!!!
hay now you are pick on me in the blogs. what is up with that.LOL and yes I do believe that there is someone for everyone. but I'm a deamer and believe in love. that just me.
and just wait till I talk to you little lady.LOL
hay now you are pick on me in the blogs. what is up with that.LOL and yes I do believe that there is someone for everyone. but I'm a deamer and believe in love. that just me.
I would like to believe that everyone is happier with that "special someone" in their lives and visa/versa. Wishing you are sent that "special person" for you.
I would like to believe that everyone is happier with that "special someone" in their lives and visa/versa. Wishing you are sent that "special person" for you.
I wont lie and say this is my original idea, a friend of mine voiced it once and I latched on to it. It isn't that there is that one special someone out there for you but rather there are people out there you are better suited too. How depressing to think that there is only one person out there for you. I mean what happens if you a) never cross paths with that person B) that person dies. I mean it's a bit much. I'd rather like to thing there are plenty of people I could live with and share my life with, it's just a matter of finding someone that I'm am a good match with and is willing to put as much time and effort into the relationship as I am. Right? There is no magical perfect relationship--even the best of them have had moments of doubts and have almost thrown in the towel a time or two I'm sure.
I wont lie and say this is my original idea, a friend of mine voiced it once and I latched on to it. It isn't that there is that one special someone out there for you but rather there are people out there you are better suited too. How depressing to think that there is only one person out there for you. I mean what happens if you a) never cross paths with that person B) that person dies. I mean it's a bit much. I'd rather like to thing there are plenty of people I could live with and share my life with, it's just a matter of finding someone that I'm am a good match with and is willing to put as much time and effort into the relationship as I am. Right? There is no magical perfect relationship--even the best of them have had moments of doubts and have almost thrown in the towel a time or two I'm sure.
